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Albert Ellis
Quotes by Albert Ellis
Quotes by Albert Ellis
“The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.”
Albert Ellis
“The art of love is largely the art of persistence.”
Albert Ellis
“Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they're alive and human.”
Albert Ellis
“There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy.”
Albert Ellis
“By not caring too much about what people think, I'm able to think for myself and propagate ideas which are very often unpopular. And I succeed.”
Albert Ellis
“There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to be equally irrational.”
Albert Ellis
“Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional.”
Albert Ellis
“I think it's unfair, but they have the right as fallible, screwed-up humans to be unfair; that's the human condition.”
Albert Ellis
“You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it.”
Albert Ellis
“People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.”
Albert Ellis
“I think the future of psychotherapy and psychology is in the school system. We need to teach every child how to rarely seriously disturb himself or herself and how to overcome disturbance when it occurs.”
Albert Ellis
“We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving today.”
Albert Ellis
“People could rationally decide that prolonged relationships take up too much time and effort and that they'd much rather do other kinds of things. But most people are afraid of rejection.”
Albert Ellis
“People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware.”
Albert Ellis
“I get people to truly accept themselves unconditionally, whether or not their therapist or anyone loves them.”
Albert Ellis
“Most people would have given up when faced with all the criticism I've received over the years.”
Albert Ellis
“People got insights into what was bothering them, but they hardly did a damn thing to change.”
Albert Ellis
“Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world.”
Albert Ellis
“If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic.”
Albert Ellis
“For that again, is what all manner of religion essentially is: childish dependency.”
Albert Ellis
“Freud had a gene for inefficiency, and I think I have a gene for efficiency.”
Albert Ellis
“I'm very happy. I like my work and the various aspects of it - going around the world, teaching the gospel according to St. Albert.”
Albert Ellis
“I would have liked having children to some degree, but frankly I haven't got the time to take the kids to the goddamn ballgame.”
Albert Ellis
“I hope to die in the saddle seat.”
Albert Ellis
“If I had been a member of the academic establishment, I could have done other experiments.”
Albert Ellis
“Let's suppose somebody abused you sexually. You still had a choice, though not a good one, about what to tell yourself about the abuse.”
Albert Ellis
“I had a great many sex and love cases where people were absolutely devastated when somebody with whom they were compulsively in love didn't love them back. They were killing themselves with anxiety and depression.”
Albert Ellis
“As a result of my philosophy, I wasn't even upset about Hitler. I was willing to go to war to knock him off, but I didn't hate him. I hated what he was doing.”
Albert Ellis
“I wrote several articles criticizing psychoanalysis, but the analysts weren't listening to my objections. So I finally quit after practicing it for six years.”
Albert Ellis
“In the old days we used to get more referrals, because people had insurance that paid for therapy. Now they belong to HMOs, and we can only be affiliated with a few HMOs.”
Albert Ellis
